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I've grown up but my boyfriend of 6.5 years hasn't!

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Question - (1 May 2012) 4 Answers - (Newest, 2 May 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hi I just wanted to get someones opinion about my relationship...

I have being with my man for 6 and half year we got together when I was 15 and he was 20.. Since then I have grown up a lot and he doesn't seem to want to grow up.. In terms of jobs he doesn't show interest in working and would rather sit all day... We have 2 children and I want more out of life.. I gave my job up a few month ago but since then I have a interview this week for a good job and if I get it I just can't see a furture with him anymore..

What should I do because I love him still and would like it to work but its just not going to..

I don't seem to feel sexually attracted to him anymore either as I don't want sex with him :( is this a bad thing?

Thank you

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (2 May 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntbig changes between 15 and 20....

I am sure in a few years you will feel much more positive about these changes... it's scary... but I agree that it's your best shot...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2012):

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Hi thank you for your comments.. I have talked to him over and over again I just feel like its a lost corse now..

I've done some thinking today and I'm going to leave him think in the long run be best thing I have ever done :( I hope

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A female reader, babygirllovej Canada +, writes (2 May 2012):

babygirllovej agony auntHello,

I'm sorry you are in this situation. There is little you can do except talk to him and explain to him what is going on and what will happen if he doesn't get off his butt and help you.

I know it's hard where you have children with him. Be strong and do what you feel is best!

Good Luck!

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A female reader, kaiti30 United States +, writes (1 May 2012):

kaiti30 agony auntHi,

Well it doesnt seem odd that your not attracted to him, he refuses to get off his butt and help, i wouldnt worry to much about that, id try to approach him about it, tell him if things dont change youll leave, cause that may what it comes down too, you had 2 kids, and didnt get with him so you can baby him too. Id just be honest, or encourage him... reward him... Im not sure what ekse to do, but you dont need to be providing for 3 children...

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