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writes:i have been engaged for 1 1/2 years now to my fiancee, when i mention to him about getting married he goes to a bad mood so i just stop and keep my mouth shut cos i don't want any arguments.i feel he doesn't wanna talk about this, but for how long do I have to wait before he marries me? when there's another man ready to marry me if i only want, i love my fiancee but he knows that the only reason i separated to my ex boyfriend before him is because he can't marry me since in the end the we are together i found out that he was still married. shall i wait and wait just because i love my fiancee or take the chance from another man which i don't love but ready to give the very important thing in my life? and maybe someday i will learn to love him too. my family didnt respect me at all because of my situation., i want a respect from my family specially from my parents and i will not have it as long that i am not married and just only staying in one roof with my fiancee? pls. help in any advice thanks a lot....
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reader, Juliecupid83  +, writes (24 June 2009):
When I was reading your article its sounded like you are inlove with the wedding than your fiance. The most important things to you is what your family would say to you. If you really love your mate you will not going to turn around and married someone else because you are so obssess about the wedding plan. I think you need to see some counselor. So you will have an idea what are marriage is all about. Its not the ring, the big gown, the party. Its the thought that you guys made a commitment for each other. That you will be there through thick and thin, happier and sorrow. You still going to love your mate no matter what your family said against him. As long as both of you guys are happy and enjoy each other's company. Although he still married with his ex and haven't filed for divorce it doesn't mean they still together. His with you and living with you. The wedding is just a paper and ring. It doesn't really have a value. Is how you guys love each other and being their for each other is what you call marriage. I don't think so you love your mate to be your husband. You are too selfish and only care about you. And very impatient. If you want to marry the other guy that is willing to marry you go ahead. You going to be in mysery for the rest of your life cuz your so obcess about wedding and what people are going to say to you. Sometimes a year and half its not a long time to know your mate. If you guys get married to soon. You gonna end up getting divorce. Is how you handle what ever comes in both of your lifes. Remember your family is not the one living with him. Its you who is living with him. As long as his helping you, not cheating on you, don't beat you up. Who cares what they said. Its all matter you know you found the right one. If you think his not the right one move on and find someone else.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (27 January 2007):
 He is not ready for marriage and is avoiding the issue.
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reader, ady  +, writes (27 January 2007):
 dear;
i think every thing bulit up on clear base will be good; for this reason and as you explian that your finace aware about your situation it is better to detrmine every small detail from the bigining.
best regard;
ady
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reader, DocSilverback +, writes (27 January 2007):
 I tried to stop reading after "there's another man who is ready to marry me'. GEEZE!!!!!! You are more in love with the fact of being married than you are with your mate. So much drama in this play. I say stop the game playing at 36-40 years old. Maturity needs to come into this situation. LEARN TO LOVE??? Trix or for kids!
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