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writes:Hi Agony Aunts,How can I make my Parents respect me? I feel They aren't taking me or my words seriously and are trying to make my decisions for me. They get emotional when I tell Them to not meddle in my decisions. How can I not hurt Them and still get Them to take me seriously?Oh btw, I'm not a teenager. I'm 28, into very low level systems software at present, studied at a top 5 US univ and can kick serious martial arts ass if required. But I'm putty with my Parents. I'm Their baby and I liked it that way always. There was a crucial time when They had it with me and wanted me to grow up. I refused. Bad mistake, but I can't change the past.....But now They're pressurizing me to get married and I don't wanna. I had the good fortune of never entering into a relationship (alright fine I'm a *bit* sad about that, what do you want me to do? Beat my chest and cry? I'd rather make it sound positive people) till now. But now that I'm being pressured, I would like to fall in love and get married.Question 1. How the hell do I fall in love now? I'm ill equipped for this task. Nay, I'm doomed. And I'm vegetarian. And I still want to *look* like putty in my Parents' hands. They're good people and I feel evil already.Question 2. How do I stave off my Parents' concerns for now? How do I buy an year? How do I make Them respect my words and my decisions? How do I make Them confident that no matter what I do, I am almost certainly doing it right and that I'm doing the right thing?Thanks for reading! Reply to this Question
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reader, Mig29  +, writes (28 January 2011):
MOve out of home, live alone for a bit join a club, meet people go on online dating, ask your friends to introduce you to women.
Parents are always tough and moving out is the only option, also if you are staying alone then restrict conversation to once a week etc..Tell them that you wish a love marraige and not an arranged one and to give you a year.
Parents use emotional black mail and you have to stand tall, by saying no you are not hurting them, like my parents they shall behave that they are hurt but its all part of the plan.
You have your life ahead and always good to know who you iwsh to marry...
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