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writes: So I've slept with this guy a couple of times now... I'm not really into him but I sleep with him anyway. Weird I know. Part of this is because my first time meant nothing to me and wasn't special at all and as a result I've been having causal meaningless sex since. I think this guy is starting to develope feelings for me even though we talked and came to the conclusion that we would only be friends. Maybe I'm wrong maybe he's only using me for sex too. How do I find out for sure? And if it's more than that for him how do I let him down? Thanks guys. Reply to this Question |
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (29 September 2006):
 you firstly ask him straight out if he has grown feelings for you if he replys yes then you reply amongst the words of well this wasnt suppose to happen, as we agreed to keep it freindly! then say im so sorry i dont mean to hurt you in any way but i dont want to do this any more if it is to affect you! and even if he replys no i havent then you simply say well i cant do this any more! explain the reason is because which this is to become a fact! if you grow any feelings for me it will be me that will break your heart and i dont want to be responsible for that! then tell him to find a girlfreind to settel down with and start a life for him self! if you are to carry on doing this you will break his heart and would you really want to be responsibel for that?
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reader, meowmixers +, writes (24 September 2006):
Easy, stop having sex with him and you'll know. If he wants more and you don't, you need to just tell him. His ego will be shot but it will give you time to figure out if you really like him or just the attention from the sex. But you have to stop sleeping with him to figure out anything.
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reader, Toria +, writes (24 September 2006):
 This was always likely to happen in situations like this, one will more often than not fall for the other one and there really is no gentle way to let someone down because no matter what way you do they will always get hurt, if he is developing feelings for you not only do you need to let him down and explain how you feel but you are also going to have to stop having sex with him because although he may pretend he is okay with carrying on having sex he will just be getting more and more hurt as the time goes on probably hoping one day you will want more from him too.
Good luck :o)
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