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writes:I have a boyfriend that wants to get married. I thought I did too. But now that he is ready to buy a ring and wanted some input, I am getting thoughts that I am just not ready. I have been married before with it ending in divorce. What should I do. If I try to stall how can I do it with it not raising questions in his mind that I am not serious about our relationship when I am. I know I love him but failure is major in my past. (Divorced 3X)I couldn't bare the thought of another failure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): Tell him that you are nervous and that you need some time. I'm on my third marriage and even though he's a great guy, I wish that we were dating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): well what the heck try again, but make a commitment to yourself to see a psychologist to help you look at yourself and your past so you understand yourself better and maybe not make the same mistakes again (at least whatever is in YOUR power to control, yes we all make mistakes it is really nothing bad only a part of being human, sometimes the mistakes we make are so subtle we dont even realize them).... that's what a psychologist is there for, to help you understand yourself... and of course, introspection is not mandatory with a psychologist by your side, but it certainly helps, if you find a good one, and can afford it.
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