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writes: Hey agony aunts!Cut to the chase I guess. I have just started seeing a guy who is 11 years older than me, I am 25. I am worried about the age difference and us wanting different things. I am stupid but worried what is wrong with him and why he hasn't settled down before now as he is a great looking guy and has a good job etc and I don't think by the sounds of it he wants to settle down now. Everything's a bit of fun for him which is fine, but when the fun is over what do you do then??Please help, ny advice would be great!!pixie Reply to this Question
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reader, pops +, writes (18 August 2005):
Major test: Is he still living with his parents? Or with roommates? Its hard to contemplate " settling down " until you live on your own. Some guys don't get there until they are 50 or older. Look for someone who does his own cleaning and washing, cooks, does windows, and baseboards, and is handy under the hood of his car. If he has a great job, saves money, and likes nice things, he becomes a possible. If he can't kiss worth a damn, drop him. If he is a good kisser, how is he about talking and listening to you? Do you share more than one interest in common? Are you both willing to learn about those other interests you both have but don't now share? Can you give each other time to do " hi/her own thing? Do you have so much fun together that you face muscles and ribcage is sore after every date? Can you talk to him about sex, what he likes, dislikes, fantasies, is he willing to try stuff he hasn't yet done, etc? Is he willing to learn how to pleasure you, and teach you how to pleasure him? Is a great sex life important to him? No?, drop him!Great sex begins with good sex techniques and imagination, a genuine caring for your partner and willingness to learn, constantly, how to pleasure him/her, and, of course, a bit of luck. But never kid yourself about great sex: It takes lots of work and practice, and you are rewarded by the practice with the sex getting better and better, as long as you are together.
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