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*iss sunshine
writes:Hello,I left my boyfriend of 2 years and a half about 7 months ago. I never stopped loving him but at the time i thought it was the best thing to do since we had some problems. I started dating again about 2 months after the break up but it is nothing very serious since we don't live in the same country with this new guy. I always had regrets for leaving my ex boyfriend since i realized that when he was gone my feelings were very strong. It has been 7 months and i still love him very much. He doesn't want to get back together because he says i caused him a lot of pain when i left him, forgeting all the pain he caused me during the last year of our relationship. About 2 months ago he said to a mutual friend that he still has feelings for me but that i hurt him very much. It's been 3 days i discovered he has a new girlfriend. After the break up and for a long time he told me he doesn't want to have a relationship and that he can't be with someone after such a long relationship. Apparently it is official with his new girlfriend, our mutual friends told me he is with her but it is something new that happened over the past weeks. He spends a lot of time with her and he stays a lot at her house. It is driving me crazy and i don't know what to do. I am aware that my feelings aren't justified since i have something as well not very important going on in my love life and it has already been 7 months we broke up. But to know that there is no way whatsoever to get back together and that he has no feelings for me is killing me. I can't stop crying since the first time i saw them together and realised he is in a new relationship. Please some advice could really help. What should i do? I still love him but i can't handle the pain anymore.
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reader, Miss sunshine +, writes (8 February 2011):
Miss sunshine is verified as being by the original poster of the question I try focusing on other things in my life but in the end of the day when i am alone it all comes back suffocating me...
I realize now that he was the love of my life and i let him go. I had the chance to keep him and i didn't. Thank you for your answer. All i hope now is that by time and while i go on with my life things might get better....
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): It sounds like there's nothing left for you to do but let go and try to move on.
Stay busy with work/school, hobbies, friends etc. Spend some time doing things you enjoy to help you find yourself again, focusing on yourself is a great way to stop thinking about someone else.
Make sure you talk to someone about how you feel, as long as it's not your ex or a mutual friend who may discuss it with your ex. You need to get this out of your system but it will take some time. Good luck.
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