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sadeyes
writes:Split with b/f of a year because he isn't in love with me,but wants me in his life as a friend as he can't imagine his life with me not in it.Anyway,we were trying the friends thing,but it wasn't working as I am still in love.As we were such goood friends,i didnt want to lose him completely,but things were eating away at me and we had a big argument via email,where things were said on both parts but mostly by me that weren't meant,and now we are not even talking.I didn't want thing to end on a bad note,and not because I want to be in contact with him,I know that is not possible for my own good,but just as we meant so much to each other,it would have been nice if we came out of it thinking highly of each other.So,my problem is it is eating away at me that we have ended on bad terms,but I dont want to be the one to apologise in case he thinks I am chasing him and clutching to straws whcih i'm really not.Can anyone advised best plan of action so that we can at least walk away from this like two grown adults and not resenting each other Reply to this Question |
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (23 April 2008):
 I truly think you need a clean break from this guy for a few months to get your feelings sorted out before you can go back to being friends. You are still raw from the break up and still in love so it's normal to pick fights and have arguments when one person feels this way.
"I don't want to be the one to apologise in case he thinks I am chasing him and clutching to straws"- this is not a friendship in your eyes yet so you will continue to create drama because you have deeper feelings and it's natural to want them reciprocated. Time out will be good for you and will allow you to have this friendship and not lose him, you run the risk of losing him now because he'll get drained by all of this eventually, okay?
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