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writes:I got over how nervous I was, but now the condom ruins my erection!What do I tell her? what do I do? For those who need more of an explanation, It used to be nervousness that caused me to lose an erection, but I took care of that and now when I put on a condom last night right before I started having sex.... I lost my erection
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): Talk to her and i am sure she will understand. It isnt an uncommon situation. Condoms just seem to deaden things, but they are essential if you want protection.
If she loves you she will understand and be there for you. Just kiss, caress and touch each other and the rest will come naturally in the future. Dont rush things and i think it is still down to nerves. It takes time and patience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): This has been discussed before, here, Trax, but I will do it again. If you feel you must use condoms, which you should, if there is no other birth control being used or you are not in a committed relationship,...you can make the proceedure better if she "helps". There is a spot at the base of your member,..on the top, next the pubic bone. It is felt as a slight "hollow" spot. If she places her thumb on it while the critical organ is functional, and presses gently while you are sliding the "thing" on, it will help you stay ready. If you start to "lose it", she can ,erm, wiggle her thumb. This should help. The thing is co-operation. I am assuming you have an intimate and trustful relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): Condoms aren't exactly a natural feeling! Even as a chick I think sex doesn't feel the same with them. Maybe it's not the right size? If its too tight, you're going to be uncomfortable. Maybe check out product websites for condoms that give you a description or size and feel.
Its a good idea to play it safe, but if you're kinda committed to eachother and neither have had many partners, then perhaps they're not necessary provided your girlfriend uses oral contraceptives? It might also be an idea you both get tested before you decide not to use condoms though!
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