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writes: Help me!!In the past year I have been romancing my childhood sweetheart. It’s been good, until I needed to move to be nearer my family. Now all he wants from me is sex....sex talk, videos anything sexual....I am a very highly sexual woman, but at the same time, I could live the rest of my life without a man! He plays with my mind, and tries to "make me want him" more than I actually think I do. He will break up with me on a Monday, I’ll ask why, he will be distant on the Tuesday, I think ok, its over....shame, coz I really liked you. Hhe will be at my door on the Wednesday, begging for forgiveness, and saying he "had a moment". I am a sensible woman of 28, I have 2 children, so I am not a influential little girl. I need help, on what to do. He is my first love. I’m not sure how much I love him any more, but I don’t want to lose our relationship, not the sex part, that can go, but the part of "us" that sits on the sofa watching a movie, having a giggle together, holding his hand on walks. That’s what I want, but to be honest I really don’t think I’m gonna get. I kinda know what advice I’ll get, but I always need a second mind on my thoughts, just to make sure I’m not being selfish.OK, my question is, do I: 1) totally break up with him and forget all that’s happened? After all, it’s only been a year. Or 2) do I keep being broken, destroyed by him, and wait for the next time he comes to my door to pick me up?? Think I have just answered my own question there!! OK then......how do I say I just wanna be friends with him?? Expecting a real good response very soon guys!!xxx Hel xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 November 2005):
 You say, "I just want to be friends". Problem solved. Now that wasn't so hard was it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2005): I am confused. You have 2 children, but you are still dating a childhood sweetheart? Are these his children? If not, who was the father of the kids? And how long did that romance go on? And what was this guy doing while you were making babies with someone else? If you have already broken up with another man, what is so difficult about ending this affair? Tell him directly how your feel. He may not be interested in being " friends", because sex is obviously important to him. That is the chance you take. You have to decide. No one else can tell you what to do here. Sorry.
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