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writes:Is is appropriate for an adult friend of my husband to be pals with my son who is 7? They play and sometimes email funny stuff. He asks my son questions about me sometimes. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): for me this is warning bells.
1. your son is 7. this man is emailing him
2. he is asking questions about you. is he interested in you.
3. IS HE grooming YOUR SON. YES, GROOMING. you know starting as frineds, a little tickle here and there. gaining his confidence. gaining his friendship. his trust. making sure he is comfortable "playing games" with uncle. the list goes on. see the pattern emerging????
i think you know this is inappropriate conduct/behaviour therefore you are asking. as a mum listen to that little voice telling you to be more observant, telling you that something is amiss. it is that little voice WARNING you and alerting you to be on guard. strinking up an so called personal friendship with a child is NOT COMMON. it is behaviour of a paedo. think about it.
trust me, you have reason to be uncomfortable. the very people you trust are the very people that cross boundaries and hurt and destroy our loved ones. please becareful. speak to your hb about these little things you cannot put your finger on. there is a reason and please do not ignore the little unanswered gut feelings you are having. be more observant.
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (13 October 2009):
There is probably no harm up untill the point where he is asking your 7 year old questions about you. Your a married woman and this behavior is a little shady. You should cut this off before it even has a chance to grow into anything.
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reader, Koltrane +, writes (13 October 2009):
Well is he a father, becase it could be he just wants kids. But that is just a guess.
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reader, Elephantlover +, writes (13 October 2009):
No, take care of your son the guy sounds like a child molester.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): Is your husband's friend married or unmarried? With or without children? Is it possible that he is bonding with your son because he yearns for a parent/child relationship of his own?If so this is not a problem, and yes, common amongst people who have not married. Often times adults without spouses or children, who desire to have a family of their own, reach out to children of close friends or family. It fulfills a desire they have.But, something tell me that you worry about something sinister. Your son is young, so it is appropriate if not expected that you would monitor his emails and internet use. If you suspect something else might be going on keep a close watch on the emails.
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