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writes:I was just wondering if this is rather weird. I think it is.I was raped when I was younger, but that was nearly 6 years ago now. Now with my boyfriend we like having roleplay sex games (that alone may be considered weird, I don't know) and for some reason I seem drawn to the idea of roleplaying a rape victim.Is this abnormal? Is it a bad thing? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the replies.
I have been in therapy before but find I am unable to talk about it. Fox some reason I just can't find the words. It's seems easy enough now for me to say I was raped, but that's only because of years of trying to get helped.
So talking about problems and trying to find the breakthrough doesn't seem to be a real option here. I am prone to panic attacks whenever I try to get help for this sort of thing.
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reader, mr motivator  +, writes (28 November 2009):
My girlfriend was the same,
Raped 4yrs ago, and for ages we couldnt have sex due to the bruising and other things
But in the last year or so she has very much liked to take on the submissive role, she likes to be pinned down, and have her legs forced open etc.
I was apprehensive at first and still treat these requests with a little bit of worry as I dont want to upset her,
But when i asked her why she liked it this way she said because she likes to be out of control although she has never associated this with the rape
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reader, PixiePie +, writes (27 November 2009):
 its not the best, not exactly healthy but it is a common consequence of sexual abuse, especially in the childhood or adolescent stage.i suggest, unless you have already, some sort of therapy, but not just where you talk and they listen, the kind where you have a conversation and make a breakthrough.you may not notice it but it may be affecting you in other areas of your life or will do, things like your choices in men and social groups.but as for role play and sex games themselves there is nothing wrong or weird about that, it becomes part of a healthy fulfilling relationship.i wish you the best of luck and let us know what happens
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