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writes:Ok this might seem like a stupid question to anyone that is reading but how do people say a comment like "I've never felt this way about anyone before" meaning strong feelings in a relationship, when they have been in love before? I have been in love several times and I can honestly say that i cannot differentiate between any of them. Obviously i loved different things about those people. And I can differentiate between someone I just kind of liked to someone that I was head over heals in love with, but I can honestly say that for the people I've actually fallen in love with, I cannot say that the feelings were any different.Anyone care to help me out here? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks for the interesting replies. do you think it's true to say that if you do get over someone you loved in the past, you may not have actually "truely" loved them?
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reader, Ask oldersister  + ♥, writes (8 July 2008):
 I think at different stages in life you connect with people in different ways. You today would not have fallen in love with the asshole from 10yrs ago like you did. Most people are like this, they change and so do the depth and complexity of what they feel. I can honestly say to each person I have fallen in love with that I have never felt this way before because I haven't! Even the initial chemical rush you get from the high of a new relationship has varied with me. The guy I fell in love with when I was 19 and that lasted over 3 yrs and I thought I would die without him, now pales in comparison to how I can feel as a mature adult for someone I've been dating a year and I may not even be in love with. There are also those people, kind of like giving birth, that actually don't evolve and grow and just forget how they felt before but essentially the feeling is the same for them.
I also agree with emilysanswers, if you've been in love several times and you're only in your twenties, you may find when you really fall in love it will be different.
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (8 July 2008):
Well most people believe in the concept of "true love" - which is the one person that you'll want to be with. Kind of an "I've found The ONE / my soul mate" thing.
It could be said that since you've got over and moved on from so many of these people that you claim to be in love with - that you were never really in love with any of them.
I loved my first serious boyfriend and thought I was in love with him, but it's nothing to how I feel about my husband.
Good Luck!! xx
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