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writes:Im confused on what to think about the girl i have been talking too. we saw each other here and there before she left for the military and before she came home we started talking. we hung out a good bit while she was in town and before she left i told her i liked her. she said she didnt want to start anything because of her leaving and it wouldnt be fair for both of us.Now she is back out of state but we still talk just as much as we did before and while she was in town. she messages me as soon as she gets up and talks on the phone or skype with me before bed.... we've sent numerous messages and can talk to each other about pretty much anything. we plan on visiting each other soon for a weekend. my problem is.. i cant get a "i like you or just want to be friends" out of her.. signs point to both.. and it is really confusing. do you think there is a future for us? should i move on to something else?
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reader, Fineguy277  +, writes (4 November 2010):
Hello,You messed up a bit by telling her that you like her. When you do that, you've given her more power. She can relax and wait for you to keep chasing her. If you hadn't told her, she would also have been the one wondering if you like her or not. What happens in the movies is not real. It's better to wait for the lady to say she loves you first. women are wired differently from men. If a lady you love tells you she loves you, you feel happy and also profess your love. With women it is different. I cannot think of any relationship i have ever entered into where i professed my love for a lady.By pressing on her on the status of the relationship, you will further drive her away. You are the man and should be the one who should be determining where the relationship is going. She's supposed to be asking you questions like 'What are we actually doing?' or 'are we just friends?' but you are reversing the roles.The real way to know if you are friends or not is to touch her hands and stroke her hair. If she likes you, she will allow you stroke her hair and look like she wants you to try to kiss her. If she refuses your advances, then you know that you are still friends and you can start looking for someone else. Most women who do not like you will try and move away. If she moves away, its no big deal. It may mean she is not ready yet. Sometimes they will wonder why they moved away and try to make you touch them again. Or else she may end up coming closer to you. The Longer you remain just chatting online, the greater the possibility of just remaining in the 'friends zone'. You will wake up one morning and she'll be talking about a great boyfriend she has just met. You could hear words like 'Why are you jealous. After all we are just friends'. Try and do other things that you can physically do together like dancing, watching the movies. Hope this helps
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