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writes:A few weeks back I was visiting my very close friend for the day before she left to go abroad for a year.(we are friends in uni).At one point I was very attracted to her, but she didn't reciprocate, or I blew my chances on what may or may not have been our first date...anyway since then I had a relationship. it didn't work out but I remained friends with the girl and we have become really close. once in a while though my feelings for the second girl come up again.now, before I went home after visiting the first girl, we had dinner together at a restaurant (we have done before as friends) and in the course of the conversation i mentioned my feelings for the girl i had been in a relationship with.she seemed quite taken aback, maybe shocked or disappointed.does this mean she might have feelings for me still, or is it concern considering my relationship with the other girl finished due to sad circumstances?I will never go out with the second girl again. I know this.My feelings for the first girl are, perhaps quasi-romantic. No attraction, but I have this deep and certain feeling that somehow we'll end up together one day, and probably marry. I can't explain it. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 I understand where you are coming from, obviously her friendship is important to you but this is also a great basis for a relationship if she likes you as well, so i think you need to tell her how you feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am attracted to her.
I just don't like to admit it!!
It's hard...don't want to lose her friendship
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (30 October 2010):
Its hard to tell if she looked shocked then she obviously wasnt expecting it but this doesnt mean she has feelings for you as such, if she seemed a little disapointed or off with you then yea she probably does like you. But if you are not attracted to her then thats not a good start to a relationship i understand that you both have a deep connection and are close but you need to have the attraction there for a bit of spark.
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