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30-35,
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writes:Hi,I'm interested in this girl I've been seeing for 3 months.We really hit it off, but 2 months ago she said she wanted to focus on her work as she is doing really well at the moment. I said I would support her and her decision. We remained talking everyday as usual. We have seemed to get closer seeing each other every week. She came to a party and after I dropped her off, I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said that she likes to know a guy for 6 months before dating them so that she knows they aren't someone who uses her to which she even said herself she knows I'm not. she said she would want the relationship to be perfect and that she likes how close and well I get on with her family which is a big thing for her. I asked her if she likes anyone else in her life and she said no.I'm just concerned whether she was saying this out of kindness or she meant it.We have broken the touch barrier. We kissed on her first date and since then not kissed. We hug a lot and when I drive her home, we hold hands and hug whilst driving home.I just wanted to get someone else's view and see what they think. Reply to this Question
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reader, Denizen +, writes (3 December 2015):
 Has she been hurt before? Her quest for perfection is of course ridiculous, but perhaps it is just a term she used to say she wants to go slowly.
That's all right, but most people don't put prospective partners through an audition period. They just naturally warm to each other, or not, over time.
Try withdrawing a bit and see what her reaction is. If she seems keen to keep seeing you then go ahead. However if your 'apparent' lack of interest is similarly met then you might want to cast your net further afield.
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