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writes:me and a guy have just became best friends, im 17 and so is he but i dont know weather he is bi or straight, he has a g.f but is he attracted to me? i like him but i dont know if he likes me backi think he does because lately he has started:flirting with mekissing me I MEAN KISSING! when hes drunktalks to me about anythingalways hugging me he enjoys getting drunk with me and knows what he's doing when he is!.. i think he is currently with someone but when we were drunk the other and he invited his ex not knowing she still loves him and she took bad advantage of him when he was drunk because she drank nothing whatso-ever, i told him to stop and he did, he moved onto me! any help with this please?thanks :)
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reader, Stupid Lullabies +, writes (12 December 2007):
You may already have spoken to your friend but if not, I really urge you to be careful what you read into the way he is acting towards you. Yes he might be bisexual or even gay and struggling with coming to terms with his sexuality, and he may or may not be attracted to you. However close friendships between guys often become quite touchy feely, especially at your age, where guys almost constantly seek reassurance from their peers. For him to kiss you is perhaps more unusual, but then again I have a lot of straight friends who kiss guys when they get drunk... yes being drunk lowers inhibitions, but it also lowers reasoning. A drunk kiss could be no more than an expression of geniune platonic affection.
I suppose, like the first answer, it would be a good idea to really talk properly with him. Especially if you are uncomfortable about the way he acts towards you. However I do really suggest you let him do most of the talking and be careful about reading too much into it. If he is straight, he might see you as "accusing" him of being bisexual or gay, and resent that. All the best, and I hope it works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the adice i think il try it tommorow x :)
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reader, bellachic385 +, writes (9 December 2007):
 You should talk to him...like really talk to him about his sexuallity and yours when you both aren't drunk. Ask about the kissing and why he always comes to you and how its really KISSING. He may be drunk but if it happens a lot it might be on purpous.
It seems to me that you might have a new bf, but first he'll have to dump his gf and it won't be a piece of cake for him to come out.
I wish you the best and hopes it goes well.
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