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writes:I'm 31 and have never gone out with a girl this young. She's 18 but she's quite mature for her age and doesn't look young either. Sometimes I forget she's 18 and feel like I'm speaking with a grown woman. She's not even "really" woman since she "confessed" that she's a virgin. I like and want her so much. Is this wrong?
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reader, FoxyRoxy  +, writes (14 April 2011):
Well I lost my virginity to my 31 year old boyfriend when I was 19, and im so glad I did as we are now madly in love (and the sex is amazing!!) he had the same problem, feeling guilty because I was younger, all I can say is that respect her, dont push her into anything she isnt ready for. And under no circumstances compare her to any ex's!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): Who has initiated the dating? Her or you?I don't think the age difference in insurmountable, however as the significantly older part I think that you need to be the more responsible party.This means:- Not predatory. Ensuring it is her wanting the relationship rather than your libido driving it.- Respectful and sensitive to the emotional roller-coaster that she might find herself in.- Very responsible over using contraception.- Not underestimating that although she looks and seems mature, she is still an 18 year old woman and her immaturity and lack of experience will play out.
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (7 April 2011):
I would only caution you that there is potential trouble for this sort of relationship later - This is not a morality issue, as far as I am concerned, but a lack of foresight issue.When you are in your 40's and thinking about things that mid 40's men think about, she will be in her early 20's and even if she won't admit it, she will be beginning to feel the lost party time with others her age. When she is in her early 30's and reaching her sexual prime, her biological clock will be ticking up a storm, and she will be driven to find great sex, with or without you (even if she is able to control such urges, they will be there) you will be in your late 50's and very much less sexually inclined than you are now.When she is in her late 40's and beginning to mature in her career, you're reaching retirement age.When you're facing significant medical care and slowing down in your 70's, she's just getting to retire, and will want to go out and enjoy some free time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): I dont see anything wrong with it .. if its fine for you dont seek a second opinion ! Good luck! x
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (7 April 2011):
I have no problem with age differences like these, but it really depends in this case. She's very young and inexperienced so in that respect there's a big gap in where you stand. Taking her virginity just because you 'want' her would be wrong because then you'd be taking advantage of her. Unless you make it clear that's all you're after.
So please make sure she knows your true intentions because if you go and use her and she thinks she's building a relationship, she's going to end up unhappy.
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reader, Red HaT Ninja +, writes (7 April 2011):
 HI i hope you more than like her, to even consider taking it to that step with like and the fact you want her is wrong,Do you want her for who she is as a person and you love her?Or do you want to go further because she is only 18 and a virgin.If so then do the girl a favour and let her down gently,if you love her and she feels the same then go for it,age does not define you or make you who you are its the people inside of you. hope this helps
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reader, Serpico +, writes (7 April 2011):
One half plus seven. Lowest you shld be going is 23.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): You are both legal adults. Fuck what anyone else thinks about it.
You both have the feelings and the chemistry and want to begin a relationship then do it. Fuck what others might say. Its none of their damned business anyways.
People gawk at age differences... its frankly embarrassing. This is the 21st century, grow up people. If the law says its cool, then fuck all yall.
Besides almost all relationships nowadays are age differences. Older men, older women and younger men and younger women.
And yes the second she turned 18 she is officially considered to be a woman and not a girl. Hell, in almost every other country outside of the U.S. she would be able to enlist, drink, smoke, fuck and everything.
So you love the woman, go for it. I can't say whether it will work out, I am not a seer.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): Yes it's wrong. Find someone your own age.
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reader, heartache112  +, writes (7 April 2011):
Age is just a number and as long as you two are comfortable then nothing can stop you.
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reader, swordandredrose +, writes (7 April 2011):
As long as you are not planning on taking her virginity and as long as you are not a player
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reader, Partyboy123  +, writes (7 April 2011):
 Hey,
The age difference is quite large, there is nothing really wrong with that if you are both ok with it... its just her parents that might object to that... i would check with her parents before you decide to call her your girlfriend etc.
hope i helped :)
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