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writes: Married for thirty years. Is it wrong of me to ask my husband to go out so I can have the house to myself sometimes? He is refusing, so I go out instead. Would like the house to myself sometimes. Need my own space. Any advice? Reply to this Question |
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reader, zosey +, writes (24 August 2006):
 hey, well he may feel as if u want him to go out bcus hes insucure and scared about another man he may not realise ur actually just wanting ur own space, u should try talking to him and saying u want some time alone for ur own time, maby u could take a bath for an hour or go for long walks if u cant come to reson with him, when being with some one for so long u an start to feel abit overwhelmed with them being around u all the tym, having time out could stengthen ur relationship and help u want to spend some more time together like goin to the cinema and going out for dinner, take care and good luck with ur man. zoe
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (5 August 2006):
 no its not wrong what you should do is set days with him to spend on your own e.g he goes out fridays you go out saturdays. tell him when couples have been together a long time they need time on thier own as ralationships start failing. then plan the days you want to your selfs.
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reader, anon2907  +, writes (4 August 2006):
 I think everyone needs their own space, so I can totally relate.
It's a shame that it's come to you having to ask your husband to go out though to get that space, it's a pity he's not more sensitive to it.
But if he won't give you the time in the house can you get the time some other way - such as:
- take time outside the house? Libray, restaurant, cinema, shopping, gym, park, ?????
- can you get one of his friends to take him out for drinks etc - then it's not your idea and he might go?
- does he work? Take a day off when he's working and then you get the time when he's at work?
Good luck!!
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