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writes:Is it bad to be one of those people who never gets a girlfriend? I hate reading the questions on here and thinking "god, am i the only person in the world who can't find a girl?" There are so many people with relationship issues that really upset them, and I just wish I could be in one damn relationship. I can never answer any of their questions, because my answer would always be the same. At least they have a relationship. It's like someone complaining about how bad their internet connection is when there are so many people without homes in the world. Come to think of it, my question is pretty much a selfish complaint in the same way. So my new question is, is it wrong to feel bad about things like girls or how ugly I look when there are so many people in this world in worse situations? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): Ironically there is a letter from a woman further down the page with your complaint in reverse...
It's funny, we men think women have it so easy, they can attract a guy with no effort whatsoever..just smile practically at a guy and he is ripe for the picking.
Too bad it is not that way..movies, tv, they all give the impression love is so easy, so readily available, when actually it is a rare commodity..true love anyway.
More to your point, I never had a girlfriend till I was about 22--oh and believe me, I wanted one much before that...but things worked out well, the girlfriend became my wife, and after 23 years of marriage, we have not looked back. So, sometimes nature takes a little longer than you want...and please don't think of yourself as ugly...I am sure you have noticed sometimes some incredibly ugly guy walking down the street with a fantastic woman on his side...if he can do it, anyone can...So many women that men find attractive think they are not good looking..you would truly be surprised by how many young women are in that category...
My last advice is when you talk to a young lady, let her do more talking than you..in other words be a good listener, and try not to be embarassed about how you feel.
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reader, no_issues  +, writes (1 July 2008):
 For 50 thousand years male humans have been ignoring the squalor and misery that surrounds them in order to worry about girls. So it may be wrong, but if it is, you're in good company.
Try getting out more -- you can't meet girls if you're alone all the time.
Or try getting out less -- there's a wealth of literature concerning itself with men, some in undoubtedly worse shape than you, who have agonized over how to meet women. If nothing else, it might make you sick of all the complaints.
For that matter, going out to redress the wrongs of the world is itself a time-honored way of meeting chicks. Kill two birds with one stone, there, Peace Corps.
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