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writes:so how do i forget about this girl? shes four years younger than me but i cant help my fealings. she even said if i was younger shed of asked me out. and she wants to meet me (as friends) her words were 'dont suppose we could meet up somtime?' this was after she pourd her heart ot to me over family life and her life troubles... she was pretty upset but since then we dont realy talk as much and i dont like it, cos i do wanna meet up to take our friendship to the next level (not dating) but she hasnt followed thru with it... and she never speaks to me now with out me speaking to her first... ie; i always finish a convo with a question so we can continue it later but she is replying less and less, but i know she likes me i just think its wierd about all the topics we spoken about and she said she realy realy trusts me... if we hadent have had that talk where she poured her heart out.. it was a bit of a heart to heart... she was realy upset then i wouldnt be persuing her.. so i think she has given the wrong impression? but i wanna continue talking as friends meet up as friends ... dating is out of the question until shes 17 or 18 cos of age diff, but i do like her she likes me and i like talking to her...to summarise incase i wasnt very clear;we had a heart to heart... i felt special knwoing she could trust me and i could help her out. why did she tell me her personal troubles?we both like each other as friends and if we were a closer age (thers only 4 year init) we could be dating.is it worth wating a couple of years to maby date?i love talking to her but she seems to be losing intrest. how do i keep her intersetd?she has asked to meet up but isnt following through with it. why isnt she following thru with her request?what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2011): like i think you should wait. I have a boyfriend that is 3years older than me and well im glad he waited for me and i waited for him. its the greatest feeling in the world! (: wait for her.. trust me it will pay off in happiness
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2011): If shes 16 its not so bad, but any younger would be considered weird. In some cases it's not if the two people get along really well, and the age difference doesnt seem to matter. But until shes 16 it's a no. She had that heart to heart with you cause as she said, she can trust you. Your older so you have more life experience and she knew you would be able to offer advice. As for her slowly losing contact, maybe the age difference is getting to her too. Or maybe because your older she doesnt feel she wouldn't stand a chance. Even still she is too young for you and by pushing harder for conversation she will lose interest far more quickly. Forget about her it's probably not going to happen and it will be far too much hassle than it's worth. Find someone your own age who you can have fun with, maybe someone who is actually able to buy their own alcohol haha.
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