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writes:I have a relative who never sends me e-mail but does usually reply when I send her one. She is about my age and our relationship is okay.I am a little offended that she never sends me any, and was just thinking maybe I'll stop sending her all but urgent ones. And no, I'm not one of those people who send too much; in 2013 I sent her 9 e-mails.Would you keep sending e-mails to a relative who only replies sometimes and never sends a "non-reply"? Reply to this Question
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (29 March 2014):
 There are those of us who are more inclined to keep in contact than others because we enjoy writing, keeping in touch, and sometimes we are the ones better at corresponding due to having more time or news to share… Perhaps you are one of these people and she is not? Nonetheless, the fact is this relative; “does usually reply”, which suggests she does appreciate and acknowledges your e-mails.
If you are offended that she never sends you an e-mail first, have you thought and I can only guess, she may think there is nothing much of interest going on in her life or that she is not gifted in correspondence as you are? Or just maybe those 9 e-mails (be the content short or lengthy) a year are a bit too much… as it hardly gives her a chance to write something of her own during the year.
Whatever the case maybe; I would still keep in touch but tone it down a little to half which hopefully should encourage her and give her breathing space to write a few lines for herself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2014): Subjective. If you feel that you're putting all the work in and that you want her to for a change then stop sending and wait for her, but if you want to keep in touch and have the conversations that you have then keep sending.
You're obviously offended that she doesn't email you first so either tell her or stop sending and wait for her to do it.
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