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*onfuzzled (f)
writes:Ok, i know this topic has been answered so many times, but i need advice. Im a closet bisexual, in a relationship with a man that has no idea i like women. Thing is im in love with someone else..... My boss!! Im 95% sure she is a lesbian, she lives with another woman, but says it's just for financial reasons. Anyway, i can't get her out of my head! We flirt with each other daily, she hits me on my arm in a playful way, she talks to me about things she doesnt talk about with anyone else. I need to know if she likes me or if it's just wishful thinking on my part. She is leaving to start a new job soon, do i tell her how i feel when she goes? Or just say my goodbyes? I need advice please! X
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reader, eddie  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 I should also mention that when you have feelings for another person, as you do, and you flirt like you are, that is cheating. It may not be sexual yet but it is not fair to your relationship and most people would be unhappy to find their partner is having those thoughts and acting on them.
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reader, eddie +, writes (12 March 2008):
If you know you'd leave your boyfrinend in a "heartbeat" to be with this woman, why are you with him at all. It's obvious you do not love him as you should and maybe you should give him his freedom and find out where you're at. Maybe some time out of a relationship would clear your head. You could stop wasting your boyfriend's time and it might give the other woman a signal that you're single.
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reader, eddie +, writes (12 March 2008):
If you know you'd leave your boyfrinend in a "heartbeat" to be with this woman, why are yo with him at all. It's obvious you do not lovehim as you should and maybe you should give him his freedom and find out where you're at. Maybe some time out of a relationship would clear your head. You could stop wasting your boyfriend's time and it might give the other woman a signal that you're single.
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reader, confuzzled (f) +, writes (9 March 2008):
confuzzled (f) is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirstly I never said she was in a relationship, I said she lived with another woman for financial reasons, I have no idea whether that's true or if they are in a relationship. Secondly, no I don't condone cheating, and I haven't actually cheated. But that doesn't stop the fact that I cant stop thinking about her, and I would leave my boyfriend to be with her in a heartbeat. I'd say that was a bit more than lust wouldn't you?
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reader, eddie +, writes (8 March 2008):
You don't love your boss, you lust for her. Also, you're both in relationships, where does integrity fit into this picture? Is cheating OK for your moral standards?
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