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writes: I haven't been in a relationship for 4 years. I have just met a wonderful man and want to start sleeping with him. Do you think it's too soon? I don't want to appear easy! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2005): Sex too soon often leads to a dead end relationship. Sometimes we want love so much we try too hard and give away too much too soon. Be careful and guard you heart, girl. Do not allow your attraction for him and your hormones do all the thinking. Take your time and get to know this guy real well.
The reason people wait to sleep with someone is to avoid doing something they might bitterly regret later. Remember the 'players'-those guys who are just out to have sex with everyone and anything that walks? It’s important to remember that not all men push for sex too soon. But if a man does, walk away. Too many risks, too much chance. He isn't interested in you, only your body and instant gratification. These are the people that dump and run once they get what they want from you. When you force the 'players' to wait for sex, he gets bored and moves on-which is good because you don't want to get used by these jerks. This is WHY you wait before hopping into bed with a guy. I think the 4-6 month mark is best to make sure you know this guy real well. Get to know this fellow real well..his thoughts, opinions, his values...everything that makes him tick. Hopefully this guy, who says he really likes you, really does like you. Waiting to have sex with him, doesn't guarantee that the relationship will continue, but it may increases the odds. Who knows? This guy could turn out to be your Mr. Right. You will know in good time and if he's a keeper and he respects you...he will wait until you are ready. Being ready is not always about the age of the person. It’s also about their maturity, their personality, their experiences and how much information they have about safe sex (another reason to not rush) Many young people mistake sex with having a relationship..don't get confused-be smart and realize the difference. Good luck and remember..you have control over your body..respect that and don't give it away to someone too quickly..or it will come back and burn you badly.
Take Care Hugs, Irish
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