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writes:I know this is kind of a rhetorical question, but please give me your opinion and knowledge anyway :]I just started on birth pills. Me and my bf don't use condom anymore since he never cums in me anyway. However, last time we had sex, he wanted to cum inside me. I knew it wasn't safe at all, even when I'm on pills. We were enjoying it to the point I can feel he's reaching climax, and I felt a burst of warm liquid in me. I was suddenly sobered, petrified and jumped away. I felt bad towards him... the sexual me really wants him to cum in me, but to be honest, I don't need a kid if you know what I mean. He thanked me after since he never usually able to cum when having intercourse, unless followed by handjob.What should I do about it? I really, really do not want to get pregnant but at the same time I don't want to disappoint him... Thank you guys, you're the only ones I can trust asking these kind of questions.
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reader, Triskaedeka102 +, writes (31 March 2009):
Triskaedeka102 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you everyone :]
I did apologize to him directly afterward. He knows since the first time we starting to date that I am absolutely not interested in getting pregnant.
The problem is still, he gets numb after a while if using condom. Any suggestion for this?
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reader, Meep!  +, writes (31 March 2009):
Actually it's not 97%, it's about 99.7%. http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/sex_and_sexual_health/contr_combpill.shtmlIf you take the pill absolutely correctly, there is almost no risk of pregnancy - I have been on the pill for 5 years now, and have never had any accidents. The problems creep in when you don't take the pill at the same sort of time each day etc.If you're really not comfortable with it, then make him wear a condom, but really, it should be fine without a condom.
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reader, serendipiti  +, writes (31 March 2009):
hey Triskaedeka102, as long as you do not miss any of your pills you are safe. After the first month on the pill it is fully effective and you are about 97% safe. The pill is only a contraceptive which means it will stop you getting pregnant but it won't protect you from STI's so if you are unsure that your boyfriend was a virgin before you, or if he hasn't been tested since you got together it's safest to use a condom as well.Explain how scared you are to get pregnant and apologise for jumping away, that's some pretty harsh rejection for anyone.Remember sex is supposed to be fun and your comfort is just as important as his so use a condom if that helps you to relax.
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reader, Michelle16 +, writes (31 March 2009):
 Even though birth pills are a good contraceptive, they are only 97% effective so sometimes to be on the safe side it's good to go double dutch and use a condom aswell.
But also thinking about your sex life, if he wants to have full satisfaction and reach orgasm (as only natural) there are other places for him to cum. For example the mouth, or as you mentioned giving a handjob after.
Experiment, it's fun (:
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