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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I met this guy and he says that he really likes me. But he's afraid that he is not ready for a committed relationship with me, a single mother. He says that he finds that he cant mentally let go with me because he's afraid if he does he wont be able to handle the consequences and the closer he feels us getting, he pulls away. He says his feelings arent strong enough to risk getting hurt and getting everyone else hurt because children are involved and he is scared. Is it impossible to assume that with time, those walls can come down and then his feelings will grow? He says he knows I am an incredible person and he really wants this to work but he doesnt know how to let his guard down and take that leap of faith? With such resistance, do you think its possible to fall in love? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 November 2009):
I don't think it is. I think you could be waiting a long time for something that doens't sound like it will happen. The truth is, if he really wanted you, he would have said and it would work. I think it's more likely that he's wary about taking on your children as well, so maybe he's scared of that. But believe me, when a man loves a woman, he says so, no matter what. Don't wait around for him, he isn't interested enough.
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