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writes: Is it normal to never having any feelings for another person? The only things that draw me to women are purely physical. I watch everybody around me being in love and doing certain things I could just never imagine myself doing. I've never felt love for another person. I'm worried that it is what I am missing out on in my life. I will be 18 soon and have never had a real relationship with another person. I fear my logical mindset will be my downfall... Should I be worried? I am never sad and I consider myself to be an above average teen... it's just this one thing REALLY bothers me. Thanks for your help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2005): I'm dating a wonderful guy who'll be 25 in a few months. We've been together for a little less than a year, and before me, he'd never had a meaningful relationship, either. There'd been girls he hooked up with, even a couple of girls he thought he might really be interested in (in college), but he's always told me that, until he met me, he just never knew any girls he was really interested in spending much time with, outside of hooking up. With me, though, things are totally different. We've had our rough spots, but the guy's been crazy about me and done all the things that every guy does when he's feeling that way.Don't worry about it. You just haven't met the right girl. 18 seems really old, but trust me, it's really not -- there are lots of people even older experiencing the same things you are. If you really feel like you have a reason to be worried, the best thing you can do is examine yourself and your attitudes. Are you arrogant? It sounds like you've got a lot of opportunities ... is there a chance they've gone to your head? Arrogance can make it hard to find someone who seems "good enough" for you. Are you selfish? This matters not only for dating relationships, but just in every day life. Take a long hard look and see what you can do to be a more selfless person. Really try to think about things from someone else's point of view, and to put other people's needs ahead of your own, where that's not inappropriate.This might help you fall in love next month, and it might not. That really shouldn't be the point. The idea should be to make yourself the best person you can be; when someone else that's wonderful (and wonderful FOR YOU) somes along, you'll recognize it.
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reader, chav123 +, writes (9 December 2005):
There must be a reasons for why you don't have interst in falling in love it would be different if it was sex I someone how is ready to have sex but there to scared Is there a reason in your head that tells you your not ready. it is up to you if your ready or not I hope you figure something out love might be only round the corner
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