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writes:Hi, i have currently been in a relationship with my partner for around 3 years and i love him alot, we have a home together, a beautiful baby and we are engaged. I couldnt ask for a better life but recently i have been having feelings for one of our mutual friends, i am very attracted to him and i have recently been thinking about him a little more often than i know i should, i feel so guilty that i am having these thoughts because i do really love my partner. This friend has given me signals that he perhaps likes me more than a friend too but im not sure if its just the attention i get from him tthat i like or if it is more than that. How can i stop having these feelings for him? i love my partner and im afraid that if i keep feeling like this i am going to ruin my relationship, my partner has no idea idea that i feel like this and i wouldnt do anything to hurt him and this guy is a really good friend of ours an i also dont want to ruin our friendship. I dont know what to do, its driving me insane. Is it really normal to have feelings for someone else wen i am in relationship with someone else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): Hi. In my opinion your feelings r normal. Don't worry too much. We all wonder what it'd be like to be with someone else, no matter how much we love our partners. But imagine if you were actually WITH this man. Would he make you any happier than your current man does? prob not. Its just the thrill of not knowing that keeps us intrigued. Just remember how you first felt about your boyfriend. It sounds to me like you've found a good man. Your happy, you've got a home together and a lovely baby!! You'd be crazy to give that up. Maybe go away together and remind yourself of why u love this man. So many women have made BIG mistakes and live with regrets for thinking the grass was greener elsewhere. It's not. xx
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reader, sexi  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Hi
Yes it is normal but i dont think that you should act on those feeling;there is alot at stake.(1) If you and your friend have anything kmore then friendship, then you should realize that things would NEVER be the same againg and you cannot turn back from there. Things would always be akward if things dont work out between the 2 of you.(2) You risk losing the friendship that you have with this guy, which is more important?(3) You are going to hurt you bf badly. You say that he is great then why would you wanna be with someone else?
It is possible that you just like the attention but i think that you should try satying away from this guy in order to get rid of your feelings for him. If you can do that then things should work out fine.Hope this has helped you.
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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