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writes:Hey all! Im a 21yr old woman whose had 3 serious relationships (with men). Im 100% attracted to men, believe me i know that. I love sex with men etc. However my ex was all for giving me oral and fantastic at it let me add. When we were together i thought about giving a girl oral because i know how great it feels and it didnt half turn me on. I never told my ex because i didnt know how he'd respond. Now im single, i think about it when im horny. Whenever i watch porn, i dont get off to anything except lesbian porn because its full of female oral. Im pretty sure im not a lesbian, but i love watching girls give each other oral and imagine me giving/recieving it from a girl. Is this normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): Fantasy is not reality. You need not feel guilty about fantasy as long as it does not consume you, negatively affect others, or cause you to act on it.
When professionals talk on this subject, they impress on this through examples such as... the more common than not male fantasy mentioned here about receiving blow jobs from males (could have a lot to do with power highs... feeling turned on by extreme forms of submission...) and on the other side, common female dreams of being raped or seduced by a stranger... do they actually want to be forced into sex in real life? CERTAINLY not!! Absolutely not. That is what roleplay in relationships satisfies; most people require trust and security with a person before they can go farther/ lose themselves to their imagination's various passions. Some couples are comfortable with being open, "three- ways" some people allow... which allows for gay experimentation.
A lot of the times the things we Think we would like, turn out to be incredibly distasteful to us when we experience them. A lot of people can't even bring themselves go through with them when confronted with the opportunity at last. Actions are the determine-r of character, not necessarily thoughts and likes.
If I were to analyze your fantasy in a psycho-quack sort of way, I'd say a part of it could be the trust you feel in life among female relationships you have.. oral- anything (kissing, especially... recall the film Pretty Woman?) is extremely personal and brings feelings of closeness and comfort. And girls in general are considered less intimidating and more innocent and sweet than men. Perhaps this could be part of the appeal to you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): I am a married male and I think about giving and receiving oral from males, and it turns me on so much. Does that make me bi? Yes and I want to act on it and I am ok with being bi.
So if you are thinking about it and it turns you on, then you have bi-tendency. If you act on it then you are bi-sexual.
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reader, turbine  +, writes (8 December 2010):
I think it's okay to watch lesbian porn for you and get turned on. You don't want to get involved in it but just enjoy watching it. Just keep it to that and its okay. A lot of girls like watching other nude girls. The thing is that you have a higher sex drive than other woman so you've been imagining things a bit too far. That's okay if you dont try it.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (8 December 2010):
 There's nothing wrong with it. It's a fantasy that you like and enjoy.
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reader, NeoOnix +, writes (8 December 2010):
It's not wrong as long as you remember that:
1. you're not nor intend to be a lesbian
2. want to remain hetero
3. never act on your emtions
Once you do, face facts, you'll be the one perons you never though you'd be.
Lastly, get some good hobbies, improve your health, and keep your mind focused on bigger and better things in life. You'll be much happier for it.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): It doesn't mean you're gay or bi, not that there's anything wrong with that. A lot of women watch lesbian porn. It's natural to feel curious and maybe it feels a bit forbidden. It's just a fantasy that makes things a bit more exciting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): There is chance that you are Bisexual. there is nothing wrong with it. You can still 100% like having sex with men, doesn't mean you won't 100% like having a girl give you oral.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): Im 16 and completely straight too. But alot of times i think of being with women. Youre just curious and want to know what it feels like. Im pretty sure every girl has felt the exact same way
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