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Is it normal to be scared of losing your virginity?

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Question - (29 September 2013) 3 Answers - (Newest, 30 September 2013)
A female Nigeria age 26-29, *archie writes:

I don't really know why i'm scared of loosing my virginity. Is it normal for someone to be scared of loosing their virginity?. Or is it just me actin in accordance to my body's tone? I just need advice. Any comment will be appreciated. Thanks.

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A female reader, Dorothy Dix Australia +, writes (30 September 2013):

Hi there. Don't give your virginity away lightly, as you will probably regret it - sooner, rather than later.

It should be a special moment for you.

With someone special.

You haven't mentioned being in a relationship, and so I am assuming that you are not.

You don't want to lose your virginity, just for the sake of it.

It is better to be in a loving, trusting relationship first, and to be completely ready to take that extra step with someone.

And it is a very BIG step to take, with someone.

And when you are in that situation - and you feel READY - well then, there will be no fear.

When you are ready, he will be gentle and take his time with you.

It will probably hurt a little bit, and that is to be expected, and is perfectly normal.

And it may take 2-3 different occasions, to fully break the hymen, which is at the entrance to the vaginal opening.

There will probably be a little bit of blood also, and this is also normal.

That will stop happening after about the 2nd or 3rd attempt.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2013):

I'm afraid of losing my virginity too, and I don't think its abnormal I'm sure most women go through this phase. Many people tell me its not a big deal but I feel like it is. I don't want to lose it to a stranger or anything and I'm afraid how I would feel emotionally if I gave myself to someone.

Its something you should really think about and consider before doing.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2013):

I'm no expert, but I'll just say now, that I too am scared to lose my virginity. More so for the fact of not knowing how things will turn out. Will it hurt? Will I find the right person? Will things seem awkward afterwards? Will it go smoothly or will it be embarrassingly bad? etc. I think it's perfectly normal to be afraid to do anything for the first time. Don't worry it's okay to be terrified about it. That's why some people wait for a very long time, to make sure that they absolutely are positive it's what they want to do. I'm sure when the time is right that your fear will just melt away.

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