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writes: Has anyone ever found lipstick or something suspicious on their b/f's/husband's collar? Recently when my boyfriend and I of a year were lying down I saw this straight line that was about half an inch long on the lower collar of his shirt but it did not look like a huge smear or appear like a lip type of mark(as if someone was kissing him or something). So I am just curious if anyone has been in this situation and if they think I should let something like this go. If for example he were cheating-it probably would have appeared more on his collar and not just that line right? I have had some trust issues with him even though I see him pretty much every weekend, he is usually always there when I call him and if not, he usually calls back shortly(if not-he has a reason) and is reliable. I just kind of second guessed myself when I saw it. The way I rationalized it was--it looked like a new stain, not old and I didn't smell any other perfume or scent and it did not appear all smudgy or bigger-it was just a little line but it did not appear the shade of my lip gloss so I freaked out about it. I'm thinking it could have possibly been a lot of things but just wanted to know others opinions. Please write back with your thoughts. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2006): Often, women associate lipstick on the collar as a sign of cheating, then they go off on a tantrum, panicky thoughts, and distress to their friends... Now, I'm not saying your boyfriend/husband is or isn't cheating, but I can tell you a lipstick on collar story of mine... Very short...
Awhile ago, went to restaurant with a group of friends and their friends, had a great time. End of night, one of the ladies gave me a couple of pecks on my cheek, some of her lipstick probably rubbed onto my collar. She was buzzed and she did it very suddenly. Parted ways, went to my gf's place, and she pointed out the stain, then went off on a tantrum, didn't let me explain. I got irritated, didn't say anything and left her place. Didn't call her or anything for a week - let her blow off her steam. She probably said some pretty nasty things to her friends about me. You know what? I don't give a shit. Accuse me of cheating? Damn it.
She came back, tearful and finally listened to my 'very short story' of what happened. [sigh] Women... Why so insecure? If only you let us explain... Excuses? Yeah my ass! 8P
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhello-its me who posted this question,i forgot to mention when we were lying down and i saw it--i said you have a mark on your collar and without looking he said its probably lipstick(i guess assuming its from me) and i said well its not from me-thats not my collar and he just responded by saying it has to be from me and am i going to have to take it off and look at it. That was pretty much the end of the discussion because i did not want to sound insecure. It seemed like he had no clue when i mentioned it in the first place. Do you think he is lying?
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reader, miss b +, writes (26 April 2006):
 i think that your man friend has maybe been doing something that he shouldnt be.
basically i think that you should confrount him. if his eyes point up/left he is lying
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (26 April 2006):
 Without being able to chemically test it and without a confession nobody can actually tell you what it is lurking on your bf's collar. I suggest that if it is and he is not giving you any cause for concern it could have been somebody kissing him hello/goodbye whatever. Dont look for problems honey if they are not there. It could even be a stain from his Mum or Sister!! Do you see where I am coming form?
Please don't stress about this unless there are other things that seem like he has a hidden agenda as well.
xx
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