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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for three and a half years. About eight months ago we took a two month break. We got back together because I found out that i was four months pregnant.After two weeks of finding out, i miscarried. Two weeks later i get a call from a girl he was seeing for two weeks, saying shes pregnant and keeping it. She has been with alot of guys, and were not sure if its his. She is not nearly as attractive as i am, and has found a way to continue to throw everything in my face.I love my boyfriend very much, but i am depressed that he might be having a baby with someone we both cant stand. She is moving six hours away when the baby is born, and does not wish to have a paternity test. What should i do, should i stay with my boyfriend, and what about when the baby is born?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): Whether or not the woman is more or less attractive then you has absolutely nothing to do with this, nor is her past relationship with other men. If the guy didnt use protection when he had sex with her it's his fault too, not purely this other woman. If you believe its a fake (and Im not sure how old everyone here is, but I assume teens?) then no harm in trying to scare her off; dont let her know you miscarried and pretend to still be having a baby and see if this other woman was just trying to win the guy over or was genuine. Either way; if the woman is having this child, and you can assume its your bf who is the father, then you have to take a decision on if you want to be in a relationship with a man with a child or not. That does complicate things, but you can not try to ignore this child that will eventually be born and the impact that will have on your bf's life. Ask him what his plans are too. If he plans to move after this woman, are you willing to have a distance relationship?Best of luck.
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