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Is it easier for a girl to give a blowjob or a handjob?

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Question - (13 March 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 14 March 2008)
A age 30-35, * writes:

Me and my girlfriend have been together for awhile and been fooling around. Almost all of this stuff is the first time for us both so we don't have any experience. I've fingered her a couple of times so she wanted to give me some handjobs. The problem is that she gets frustrated or her hand gets tired.

I was wondering if the girls out there could answer a question for me: Is it easier for a girl to give a blowjob than a handjob? I would never force my girlfriend to do anything and just the whole demeaning nature associated with blowjobs makes me unsure if I'd even like her giving me one, but she gets so frustrated when she can't give me what I give her.

Thanks for the help.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008):

Blowjobs are only demeaning in porn. Remember, she is the one with your teeth designed to tear raw meat to shreds around YOUR penis.

Blowjobs are "easier" because she will be unfamiliar with the motions needed for jerking off. Inexperienced girls are either far to rough or far to soft. A blowjob is almost always good, it is hard to screw it up.

But if you want to take it slow, go for handjobs first.

For a blowjob, lie on your back and let her bend over you, that makes it VERY clear who is in charge, don't pressure her, and most certainly do NOT force her head down or anything and that should remove any negative marks from the experience.

Trust me, when my gf does it to me, she is the one in control. That is one of the nice bits about a blowjob actualy :P You can just sit back, relax and watch the sports with a cool beer. ^_^

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008):

I felt the exact same way with my first boyfriend. I felt really bad at it, plus my arm would hurt super bad after awhile. Its just a practice thing, and sometimes you just gotta take it slow. I actually perfer blowjobs, I feel it's a little easyer, kinda like sucking on a popsicle. But remember to always be clean before anything happens. There's nothing worse then going down on your boyfriend and wanting to come right back up because of odour and/or taste. Same for girls too. Good luck!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008):

Your situation sounds like me and my bf. Everything we are doing is new for the both of us. For me, a handjob is easier and I prefer it to a blowjob because I do feel like it is demeaning act. It's a preference. I did get tired in the begining, but it gets easier.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008):

One is not easier than the other it just depends on what you prefer. Handjobs can get tiresome. You have to learn to do it with both hands so you can switch back and forth. There is nothing demeaning about blowjobs as long as she is a willing participant. The best way really is to combine the two. That way her hands get a rest. It takes some time to build arm stamina also. Have fun practicing and experiment!! As long as both people are very willing, you shouldn't feel bad about any aspect of sex.

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