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writes:Heyy my friends have recently become very protective of me because i was used by this guy which really upset me. The other day the guy who used me came and talked to me and they were very quick to be stop him, one of them was being nasty to him which wasnt nice the other just taking me away. I dont know if this is good or bad? will he avoid me in the future ? (i dont want that to happen) :/ Reply to this Question
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen  +, writes (19 April 2011):
 You are lucky to have such good friends to look after you. What your friends were doing is called `saving you from yourself'. He's used you once and they are making sure it dosen't happen a second time. Your friends are wonderful, they need a big thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): It's good dietcoke because you obviously like this guy and want to let him keep using you, so they're trying to make sure you don't let him do that again, even if you are foolish enough to let him.
A good friend knows when to step in and stop us making mistakes, a good friend will let us make our own choices and live our own lives but if they feel that choice is guaranteed to hurt us then a good friend will step in.
You see dietcoke when we purposefully put ourselves in a position that is 100% guaranteed to hurt us, such as trying to keep in contact with a person who has hurt us in the past then we also hurt our friends, because they hurt when we do. So they're both protecting you and themselves because honestly if you get back with this guy, if you're even friends with a guy that treated you this way then they'll lose respect for you.
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reader, dietcoke.1 +, writes (19 April 2011):
dietcoke.1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi sorry ! didnt realise it was complicated to read.
Basically my friends are being very protective of me,when this guy who didnt treat me very nicely is around.
Will this mean he is likely to avoid me in the future or will he see it as a challenge and come back for more?
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