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writes:The guy I've been knowing for 8 years but talking to for 3 years tells me that if he tells me how he feels about me I wouldn't believe it and he still didn't tell me cause he's been "busy" I don't know what to expect. Why would it take forever for a guy to express himself to a girl when his actions and everything else tells me that he's obviously feeling me I just want to hear it from him now. Does anyone have a idea why he's taking so long I think he's scared but then again I'm not sure. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI totally agree with you and I will do just that thank you for not telling me to just move on cause its not easy. But showing him that I wont wait around for him is something that I can do so I will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): Well i know this is hard especially as you still have feelings for him, but don't let him know that your hanging around waiting for him or otherwise he is going to think he can keep on doing this and then just click his fingers and you will come running. At the moment he seems to be the one with all the power-you need to show him he isn't.
Start seeing other guys, even just casual dating, this will show him that your not prepared to wait around anymore.
Yes he'll get jealous, but tell him again how you feel but you can't put your life on hold waiting for him to make a decision, you deserve to be happy. Hopefully this will make him realise what an idiot he is being and that he may actually lose you. I know it's hard, i'm in the same boat as you--but making yourself a little bit unavailable might help to make him realise that your not going to be waiting for him forever. I hope it works out ok for you, remember you deserve to be happy....good luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. I've told him how I felt many of times but nothing happened. He doesn't want me to be in a relationship with anybody his actions tell me things I need to know but then again they may be mixed signals I feel like I bugged him long enough about this and i told him that i waited too long for his answer and he told me paitence is a virtue so I have no other choice but to wait longer and its eating me up
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): Hi,I'm in pretty much the same situation, he's sending me all the signs and other people have noticed it aswell, his friend even told me that he can't bear to think of me with anyone else, but he still hasn't said anything. My guy is quite shy and maybe scared about things going wrong and ruining our friendship and i think it could be this that is holding him back. I reckon this is probably the case in your situation aswell. You have known him for quite a long time and maybe he is worried that if things don't work between you it may effect your friendship. So maybe it is going to have to be you who makes the first move and expain to him how you feel, say that you value his friendship but you like him as more than that and your willing to give it a try. Remember the best relationships are also based on a solid friendship, you need to talk to him or it may be something you regret for the rest of your life. If your friendship is strong enough then if things don't work out you may find it difficult at first but eventually you may get the friendship back-I did. But you really do need to get your feelings out in the open, you don't want to be looking back in 10 years time and thinking, what if?Hope it all goes well for you, good luck!
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