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writes:Dear Cupid,I have been in a relationship for almost 5 years. I have been engaged for 4 years. We got engaged the first time he was sent overseas. We figured by the time I finished school we would get married. Our relationship has been very hard because most of the time we have lived apart. Either he has gone overseas for 13 months or has had an apartment to live close to work. We bought a home together and have many things under both of our names. He has his bank account and I have mine. He is going overseas again this September and I want to get married before he goes. I feel that I am ready and he says we need to wait until he gets back. He has mentioned previously he isn't ready to get married. He says we are fine the way we are. I disagree and feel that if he doesn't marry me now I want to walk. I have two kids that he has helped raise as his own. He likes different things and we sometimes tend to clash. There has been times where he has said he doesn't want a relationship but always comes back. I am 31 and feel that I don't want to invest anymore time in a relationship if we will never get married. It has nothing to do with money. I had told him I wasn't interested in being his beneficiary in any of his insurances but he put me down as one because he says I am his "wife" in his eyes. My feelings are starting to drift. Do I feel the man loves me? Yes but I also feel he thinks giving me what I want (materialistic items) will keep me happy. He is a peace officer and in the national guard and I think he feels as long as I have his money I am happy.Any advice?
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reader, undecidedgal +, writes (6 August 2008):
undecidedgal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess it is a security thing. I'm not sure. Good question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): I only have one question. How will a wedding ring give you more than you currently have now?
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