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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ive being in a relationship for the past 4 months. We are still at casual dating stage. We only see each other a couple of nights a week and I dont get to see him much on weekends and we never go anywhere through the day time. He says I should go out on weekends with my friends as I am 7 years younger than him, as he wants me to still enjoy myself. Which I do. My friends know about him and my family but none of his family know and I feel like I am being kept a secret. My feelings are becoming more than casual for him. I have talked to him on several occasions about where things are going with us but he never seems to fully open up on this. He tells me I 'mean a lot to him' and that he 'loves me to bits' even though I dont think he means in love with me. We get on really well he texts me everyday asking 'how I am and what i am upto'.We had a break up about two weeks ago and he finished it then regretted it said he was upset and hurt and then told me'he couldnt live without me'. He told me he was in an on and off realtionship for 5 year and lived with this girl for a while and that she dumped him even though he says he is totally over that as it was about a year and half ago.He says he is paranoid about me being younger and going off with someone else but I have reassured him that I wouldnt. I know he has genuine feelings for me, but I sometimes wonder if he just says things to keep me there.Is he just taking things slowly or is this still an early relationship to him? as my last 2 relationships I have being totally in love with the person by now.Please help does this guy seem genuine or just stringing me along?
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reader, yomama65  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Oh Lord! Welcome to my world, honey. I have a similar situation and I guess at some point you just have to decide if he's worth it or not. Or better yet, are YOU worth more than to be treated like that. In my situation, I really fell for the dude, and he just calls me when he wants sex, and for NOW I am ok with that, but I am keeping my options open for someone who really wants to connect with me on a deeper level.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): maybe it is just the age gap that's affecting him. perhaps you could suggest to him that you go out with him and your friends together and drop subltle hints about meeting his family
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