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Is he attracted to me? or does he just want a friendship?

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Question - (22 September 2010) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I'm not sure what to do. I like this man who is 20 years older than me. I'm 26 and he is 46. He winks at me everytime he sees me, which, by the way, i haven't seen him do to anyone else, just me, and he always gives me a kiss. He has also said that he thinks i'm gorgeous, and we did go on a few dates quite a long time ago, but apparently people mentioned our age gap and they also mentioned about he had done some things which some people could think are bad when he was younger and people know that i'm well behaved.

Last night, i saw him in the club where i usually see him, and he ddint speak to me at all, apart from saying hello and goodbye. he was watching tv at first while he was sat at the bar, as the tv is near the end of the bar. i was also sat at the bar, but not very close to him, and i was in there with one of my male friends. he then went over to talk to some other men who were in the club later on. he also winked at me again at one point during the evening and gave me akiss when he said goodnight to me. i wondered though why he didnt ask who my male friend was, as he didnt know him, so for all he knew, he might have been my boyfriend. i think though, if i had seen this guy sat with another woman, which i havent, i would be too scared to ask who she was. he has known some of my family members for years, and in the beginning, they werent very supportive because of the age gap, and because he was, and still can be, distant with me sometimes.

he has also introduced me to his parents and his brother, if that means anything, and once, he wanted me to introduce him to my dad, which i did, as he hadnt met him before. he also told me that his dad had said i was a lovely girl. he has said sometimes though that the age gap worries him, and he has mentioned how he likes going out drinking a lot, which i dont do very much these days.

i want to find out how he feels about me now, but i'm not sure what to say to him. do you have any ideas ?. i would also like to go in the club on my own, as that might be better so that i can speak to him, but i might get nervous about going in on my own. do you think he is attracted to me, or do you think he likes me in a friendly way, or could he be attracted but he doesnt want to pursue a relationship with me ?.

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