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writes: I am in love with this guy who does not let me go but still says we are just friends. The biggest mistake I ever made was to go to bed with him. I moved cities but we are still in touch and he tells me about this other women he is also friends with. He recently asked me if I was interested on going on a holiday with him to where his parents live.. I am so confused...why would he do this if he was only a friend? Reply to this Question
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reader, katzkitten  +, writes (7 August 2006):
 im in a similar position, well i was, i might still be. its complcated. anyway i thought this lad i really liked, liked me back. id liked him for ages and he acted like he liked me, but he would never go out with me (not that id ever asked him but i found out through other means) i latley found out that he was just using me. i was so gutted and hurt. this isnt really advice more of a warning...find out what his game is before its too late!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2006): It frustrates me when I hear about men who take women for granted in this way. I was just a "thing on the side" with a guy for a long time, always hoping it would lead to more, but it never did, and it's likely that it won't for you either. I finally said that enough was enough and gave the guy the old heave-ho! That would probably be the better choice for you as well. It doesn't sound like this guy is going to take you off the "friends with benefits" list any time soon, and you owe it to yourself to be treated better than that. He wants to have a little "buddy" who he can call up whenever he's feeling a bit horny. Does that really sound fair to you? If you don't mind it, though, then by all means, continue to be his friend and go on this holiday with him. I'm not here to judge, it just sounds like he doesn't want you to ever be more than just friends with him. Meaning, he only wants you for a piece of ass every now and again. He knows he doesn't have to have you in a romantic relationship to get it, so why should he try? I apologize for sounding so critical, I just know that if you continue with this, you will only end up hurt. Look out for yourself. I wish you the best of luck and I hope everything works out okay. Stay strong!
~RJGirl
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