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writes: Is coming out to your catholic family about you being bi a good thing or a bad? I am afraid of their reaction and if they would think badly of me for the rest of my life. only my close friends know this about me, but im starting to think that my parents should know too. after all, they have been there for me........but have talked badly of lesbians and gays before and dislike them. help???
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reader, ariel  +, writes (26 August 2006):
 I can't spell either: new should of been knew.Here is another site that goes through the reaction process once a person comes out .http://www.outproud.org/brochure_coming_out.html
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reader, bonym +, writes (26 August 2006):
 typo: should say "judge" I am sorry!!! Cant spell today.
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reader, ariel +, writes (26 August 2006):
Anon,
Here is a web site that may help you.http://www.avert.org/comingoutstories.htm
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reader, ariel +, writes (26 August 2006):
No Dr Pete I am not saying gay people need to be forgiven .I am saying that God is a forgiving God whether you are gay or not.There is nothing wrong with gay people.We even have gay priests in the catholic church.
And like you said Anon needs to be strong enough for his parents reaction,but surely he has given this a lot of thought and possably needs the push to come out.Why must he live a lie?I also have a friend who told his parents and their reaction was shock at first ,his dad disowned him and his mum new all along. He is happy he told them even though he got disowned by his dad.
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reader, Dr Pete + ♥, writes (26 August 2006):
 Ariel: Are you saying gay people need to be forgiven? ;)
Like Martini said it depends on the family. I know a catholic family that really do seem completely non-judgemental, they have always been a role model for me. For example, the mum went to a lesbian wedding of her work friend the other week and found no problem with that.
I think you should be careful though if you already know your parents look down on gay people. My friend who was gay at age 16 told his parents and his dad was so disgusted with him that he kicked him out and he went to live in New Zealand (5 years on - he's still living out there but is very much straight)
In an ideal world you should be able to be truthful, but in reality, you may have a long battle ahead of yourself to have to prove that you are normal, still their son, etc. Are you strong enough to do that?
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reader, ariel +, writes (26 August 2006):
Your parents will be shocked,and have probably said bad things about gays and lesbians but until it actually happens to someone close to them you will never know their reaction till you tell them.God is a forgiving God wether you are gay or lesbian imagine if he was not forgiving hell would be a very crowded place.God bless and good luckxxx
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reader, bonym +, writes (26 August 2006):
Well my dear it depends on your family. As a Christian myself, it would go against what Chritianity teaches, however I am not a Catholic and dont know how exaxtly your family would take it. Remember, no one has the right to jusge you, I may not believe in something or many things, but I dont judge you, if my best friend said he was gay, it would shock me, I wouldnt agree with it cos of my beliefs but I would not have the audacity to jusge him, its unfair. Really you need to be honest to them about who you are, otherwise you are pretending to be someone you are not and thats not good. Have you got a sister or brother you could talk to first whom you are close with then perhaps work out how you would tell your parent. Take care. xXx
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reader, martini  +, writes (26 August 2006):
 As a family, this depends on their individual traits. However, since they are influenced by Catholic teachings, they will most likely be completely against it.
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