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writes:I am in a very difficult situation. I could really use everybody's help.I have been married for many years and have children. I have not been happy in my marriage for the last several years but stayed because of the children, financial security and because I was comfortable and afraid to face the truth that I was not in love with my husband anymore. We have not shared the same bed in years and have not been physically intimate in at least a year. I have gone to counselling and feel it has not helped me. My husband wants to go to counselling with me but I feel it is too little too late. We have had a lot of stress in our lives for the past few years because of various reasons and especially due to financial struggles. I feel that many of these factors have destroyed our marriage.I have fallen for another man who has been my friend for awhile. The feelings are real and they are deep. It is not just an infatuation. It passed that phase long ago. Meeting this man and having him in my life has made me realize I have been living a lie with my husband. The other man has made it clear he has feelings for me but he is not acting on them because I am still married. I am in the position where I must choose what to do. Do I stay in a marriage that is unfulfilling to me because it is comfortable but I am no longer in love with my husband or do I take a chance on a new man that I have really fallen for? I don't know how to even approach making this decision. It would change my entire life as I know it. But I do know I have to make it. I cannot go on this way and it is not fair to either of these men if I keep them both in limbo and it is not fair to myself. I know my what my heart is telling me. Do I listen to it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2012): "Have you ever imagined what could happen with your kids?".....what is that supposed to mean? And what do you think happens to kids who have to endure an environment where the parents don't get along but stay together for the sake of the kids? That too can be a miserable existence.
Anyway, whatever you decide to do with your marriage or pursuing a future with your friend, somebody is going to get hurt and that hurt will manifest itself as extra baggage in either relationship. You are in too deep emotionally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2012): My dear, i'm a son alone and my parents are divorced since my birth. I must tell you, children of a divorced family get real problems in the future, they're not the same. Have you ever imagined what could happen with your kids? Surely all of you will get consequences! No doubt! I know you say about your marriage problems but you need do talk with your husband, see what's goin'on! Pray for God help you in this tough times!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2012): "I know my what my heart is telling me. Do I listen to it?"
You know what your hormones are telling you.
If you were really listening to your heart you'd know the children's well-being, yours and his, comes before you getting laid.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (19 January 2012):
 I think you should first consider the children. I really do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2012): what will happen to your children if you leave your hb for this other man?
if your leave your hb for this other man are you 500% certain that he will be with you and are u certain that his words are not just mere words?
a life changing decision BUT dont hurt your hb. it is not his fault you ant another man,
LoveGirl
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