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writes: I have been in a relationship for six years. I'm getting fed up of doing everything around the house, but when I mention it he always has an answer which I can't argue with. He also has a mother who constantly calls. She is ill but I feel as if she only carries on about it to get attention. He always gives her the attention that I can't seem to get from him. At the moment he's in the spare room because of some twisted idea that I do nothing for him, and that I constantly nag at him. I feel I'm being manipulated in every area of my life, and I'm sure he doesn't mean it. I don't know what to do anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, pica +, writes (17 November 2006):
He might not "mean" it but he also might not know any other way to be with you. Once roles in a relationship are established they can be hard to break, i.e. you do everything around the house and he runs after his mother. What if you stopped doing things for him? He's in his own room so his mess could be contained. I think you need a big shake-up for things to change. Counselling? Does he want things to improve? Don't let yourself be manipulated - sounds like he's learned that from his mother.
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reader, letitia +, writes (17 November 2006):
hi i really do feel for you im in a similar possitin. have you told him how you fell, can you talk to him without rowing. is their kids involved? please dont be be trapped. think if you can cope on your own take in to account of finace, close friends u can talk to or family. maybe have a break fro a whill this just might shake him up a bit and make him see what hes got. good luck and i hope you are ok.
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