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writes:I am a 32 year old woman. my boyfriend is 18. I love him like i've never loved another man. I'm just worried about the age difference. Men take longer to mature usually than women. I'm just so indecisive about this relationship and it's all because I am so much older. I'm worried that when I start to age and not look good anymore , meanwhile he is still smoking hot , he will dump me for some young hottie. I'm just scared to death. I dont' know what to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): Don't forget that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. He may always find you beautiful. It really depends on the person.
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reader, JGSM  +, writes (13 December 2010):
 I'm sorry, I think it's weird that you are dating an 18-year old. I would never even look at the guys in my age. Not only because they are immature - but because boys don't become men (appearance) until they are like 23 at least.
Anyways, to answer your question. Yes I do believe that this man will sooner or later leave you for someone younger. He is a 18-year old boy, whos probably going to college and so on... think straight. Perhaps you should just be aware of it and enjoy every moment with him. And live every day as it comes. Nothing lasts forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): This whole thing about women maturing faster than men... is just plain bs.I have been out to the clubs and 18 year old women are just as annoyingly immature as 18 year old men.Yes, I use the proper terminology. At 18 the law says they are men and women, not boys and girls, and I would thank people to refer to them as such.That said, it is my general experience that older women are much better able to sexually please a younger male. Same vice versa.However, age does not automatically mean compatibility in this or any other respect.It all depends up the two people involved. If you love each other and fulfill each other, then fuck what others think. Have fun and hope for the best, that's all anyone can do.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you:)
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reader, doublejack +, writes (11 December 2010):
An 18 year old male is still more a boy than a man. He's going to change and evolve as he gets older. He doesn't have life figured out yet, or know what he wants out of it. What if in 10 or 15 years he decides he wants to start a family, for example. So there are some valid reasons to think that in the very long term, this relationship might not last. Statistically they rarely do last.
My advice is to enjoy every day and worry about tomorrow if it comes. No relationship is guaranteed to be forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): I doubt it,he'd go for a younger hottie now then. I rate he's with you because of who you are..because young hotties are often easy to get.Why would he be with an older women if petty things only mattered to him. I rate you should relax,people don't seem to notice aging when they're always with you..he'll see you as more and more beautiful.Think about it,why would he randomly dump you as time goes on.. love deepens through time.If looks only mattered,he would have a new girl every week..so don't think that his personality is going to get low mentalatied.He's only becoming more mature,even if he takes time to grow up..he won't become more immature than he is now. =)
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael +, writes (11 December 2010):
 I just returned to this question immediately after I finished reading a comment by someone I believe to be you. Something about your boyfriend having a porn habit that has now birthed your insecurities. This I think you need to discuss with him, ask him to stop because it is hurting you and it is making you fearful of your future with him. Whatever you do, DO NOT let him tell you that "it is normal" and that "everyone does it". No matter how many people do it, it is not normal, it is voyeuristic and unnatural.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael +, writes (11 December 2010):
Age is a mere number. Whilst your fears are understandable, give the man a little more credit. Why are you with him? Was it purely for his good looks or was is this truly love? He loves you now so you have nothing to worry about. You do know there are women who are in their fifties and still manage to ooze sexual appeal, more so even than the younger girls who seem to reveal as much as they can without being completely naked, which by the way is a complete turn off. Don't worry.
I hope that helps.
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