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jermaineh
writes:I have recently started to get really good friends with a girl in most of my classes at school. We usually go out in a group of 3 with another one of my lad mates. The thing is i usually feel strong sexual feelings toward her when we are together and i would love for us to be boyfriend and girlfriend.The thing is though when we are alone, (in the very rare occurance), i don't seem to feel the same. I also don't "fancy" her like i used to fancy other girls. Where i really wanted to be with them all the time. I really want to feel this for her but i just don't.It's now worrying me because i have stopped "fancying" girls for about the past year or so, and im now worrying that im gay and i have just not realised it.Please help me Reply to this Question |
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reader, mitch +, writes (6 April 2007):
Perhaps you're just like me - just wanting the perfect relationship with the perfect girl. I guess we both just need to be a little more realistic, having both of the above is almost certainly never going to happen. I don't think thi has anything to do with sexuality... perhaps just being picky and fussy, and in my case being a little too shy aswell.And cheers for the q... trying to write answers to you makes me sort out into words how i feel and think, so i guess it helps me too!
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reader, jermaineh +, writes (6 April 2007):
jermaineh is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks mitch. There has been a girl i really liked and never ended up with and another who i did end up with. The girl i did end up with never really lived up to what i thought our relationship was going to be.
And this has happened in a couple more relationships i've had, thats why i started to question my sexuality. Personally i have nothing against gay people but i just wouldn't want to be "one" (sorry if that offends anyone, didn't know how to word it).
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reader, mitch +, writes (5 April 2007):
Theres nothing to worry about. Is there a girl in the past who you particularly fancied, a lot?
In my case when i was at school there was this girl i would have given anything to be with... we ended up becoming good friends, but nothing more. She moved away etc etc, and i just haven't feel the same about anyone else for the last 4 or 5 years, i know it kinda seems odd. while i never questioned my sexuality, i questioned whether i could really feel for someone again, or would i always see every girl as somehow inferior to the above girl. The answers are yes and no respectively, ive found that feeling again about someone else (hence why i ended up here, trying to find the best way to go about ending up with her (im still working on it unfortinately)).
I guess the bottom line is just don't worry, hold in there and eventually you'll find someone who you really feel for.
And it wouldn't exactly be the end of the world if you were gay, would it? i know theres still a fair bit of homophobia in our country, but its a lot better than it used to be.
Best of luck
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