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writes:I was with this guy. We get along great and we always have fun. The thing is, we've had our share of bad times. I tried so hard to stay away from him, but it's like we can't stay away from each other. The other night, after he ended it for the third time, I was back there again. We laid there holding each other and he said "I try so hard to not want this. I don't want this, but I can't stay away from you."I'm weak for him. I've never been in a relationship like this. It's so hard to just let him go. And when I tried to move on, he won't let me go either. I'm trying really hard to let go slowly. Has anyone been in a situation like this? If so, how did you get past it?
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reader, Stevie-Leigh  +, writes (7 February 2012):
What you need to ask yourself is, do the bad times out weigh the good times? If the answer is YES call it a day.
I've always been one for second chances sometimes even 3rd or 4th chances but when you stop & realise its not getting any better and your always down & upset what are you getting from it? If your crying more than your smiling why are you putting yourself through it? You may love him & it may be hard to let go but I can more or less say a 100% that you've been in worse situations & got through them! And I don't even know you.
It will be hard really hard I won't lie but it gets easier as time goes on & once you've been single a while & gave yourself some head space who knows you could end up meeting another guy thats treats you a lot nicer & in time you'll look back at this & think what the hell was I thinking.
Picture yourself without him, how would you feel in a few months time? You probably wouldn't give it a second thought. Stay strong & good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012): i have been with my partner for 2 years we argue sometimes and we have split up twice for 2 weeks it was very hard not seeing or speaking to him and i missed him like mad i realy wanted him back but i wanted our relation ship to be diffrent and better when i saw him for the 1st time after 2 weeks and i promised my myself i would never get back with him but when i saw him i had to speak to him because i loved him so much and we ended up getting bk together since we have been bk together we have argued quit alot and i stayed away for 2 nights but deep down u cant let a little tiff spoil what u have got because if u love some 1 that much would try ur hardest to work things out with him and let him no how much u love him because thats were i went wrong with my partner and now were so happy and so much in love and i wouldnt sawp him for the world :)
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reader, person12345 +, writes (6 February 2012):
 There's no easy solution. You need to cut him out of your life. If you can't, have a friend do it for you. Block his number, block his facebook, block all social media, block his email. Block everything.
The number one way to move past this sort of thing is to distract yourself. No one has the willpower to simply stop thinking about something like that, but most have the willpower to go out with friends or family, go take up a class, go anywhere. For instance when I was going through a devastating loss I took up ballet. Just having that class to look forward to and being able to pour my energy so thoroughly into something made me able to cope with the loss. Having that 1.5 hours I could NOT think about what was going on was the best hour and a half of my week. Maybe you've always wanted to take up pottery or painting or learn another language.
Just do anything to distract yourself that gets you out of your home. If you sit at home alone watching TV, you probably won't be able to pry yourself from this toxic relationship because it will be on your mind all the time.
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