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*ellybeans
writes:I'm 22 and I've had 2-3 bfs since I was 18. Now there is a new guy I like and I am confused. He was my instructor for a class last year but we rarely talked to each other. This semester he saw me on campus, we talked a little bit, and he asked for my phone number. I am sure he is single.He is 11 years older than me so at the beginning I thought there was no way I would to go out with him. We started to talk online and watch movies together and gradually I started to like him.He never told me that he liked me. Last week at my place, he tried to kiss me. I am a serious person. I haven’t messed around with any guy who is not my bf so I asked him if he liked me. He said he did, I asked why, he said it was not fun to make things complicated.I was unhappy. The 2nd day I apologized to him. I told him I am a responsible person and I don’t kiss ppl before I go out with them. Everything seemed to be back to normal. The same day we watched another movie, and we were holding hands.Yesterday, we were watching a movie at my place. I said something, he laughed, and kissed on my cheek. I thought it was cute, so I kissed on his cheek later. After I kissed his cheek, he turned around, and kissed on my lips. So basically, we were hugging each other with clothes on, and kissing. He touched my breasts. He wanted to reach under my shirt, but I stopped him.I am confused because he never told me that he liked me (once, because I asked him) and he never asked me to date him. I asked him what he thought of me, he said he didn’t describe ppl he knows. It was a vague answer. And he told me he almost married his ex, but things happened so he stopped making big plans (I don't need to get married any time soon ). I told him that I was scared that I would be hurt, and he still didn't say anything comforting. He said he felt I was questioning him and got mad.I’ve never gone out with ppl his age. I am young, good looking, smart. I don’t know why I like him. All my friends are asking me to be careful. I won’t feel secured if he didn’t have plans to go out with me. I am afraid he likes me only because I am young and good looking. I think maybe he doesn’t like me as much I like him. He doesn’t even have the basic patience to calm me down. What do you think is happening to me? Should I stop seeing him?
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reader, jellybeans +, writes (7 April 2009):
jellybeans is verified as being by the original poster of the question Zarathustra,
Thank you. =)
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reader, jellybeans +, writes (7 April 2009):
jellybeans is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHis approach is new to me. I've had bfs before and they all asked me out first, and then kissed me. I asked my other friends and they said many people did more when they were dating.I was not sure if I was being too serious. At first I was not sure if I should go out with him and I am now frustrated that he never intended to ask me out. My questions is:"he kissed me, and he is not asking me out. doesn't that mean he doesn't like me enough?" And if someone doesn't like me enough to go out with me, I don't want to kiss him.We've been having conversations about this on msn, and I feel I sound like a desperate old woman who is trying to push a free spirit into a marriage. I think he is pretty tired of it. I feel I keep asking because I am looking for an answer that I want to hear. I know this is pointless but I cannot help it. Isn't it obvious that I want him to tell me "I like u, could u be my gf"? at least "I like you, I won't hurt you"He is 30+, he gotta understands what I am looking for. Maybe he is an honest player so he won't lie to me. I hate myself for being so crazily in love. He is not good looking, or rich, or anything. What is happening?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): Give him the flick. He is playing u, i think u already know that. There are plenty ov men out there who wuld respect a girl like u so why limit urself to this guy. He sounds like a joke. Dont let him take advantage ov u. Ur smarter than that. Goodluck!
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