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writes:I am trying to make this guy in my class to want me.We are taking a law and security course, and have been getting along great.When we have physical fitness classes in the gym, I will wear my short running shorts and when we have swimming I have even worn my very skimpy bikini for him. I know he checks me out and have found the other males doing the same. I hope this helps to get him. Any other suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): You've already gotten the kind of response I guess you'd expect on a site like this, telling you that you shouldn't show off your body, you should talk to him, you don't want him to only be physically attracted, and so on. That's all great but only one side of the story. If you want the guy to be attracted to you, I say you're doing the right thing -- showing him what you have for him to be attracted to. Pretty simple. At some point you have to follow up and talk to him, but starting off by catching his eye is not a bad idea. I'd only add that I hope you are willing to follow through, so that if the two of you do get together and go out, you're not going to shut him down when he tries to act on his attraction. You can't advertise the goods and then pull them away after he takes the bait. Or you can, I guess, but then I'd recommend that he drop you immediately to save himself a lot of headache down the road.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): Damn girl. WTF are you doing, trying to lose your virginity? Calm it down with the skimpy stuff and be yourself. He should like you for who you are. To tell you the truth, when I see a girl that shows her body off too much I think of her as a slut. Just be yourself and let him get to know you better and if you and him are clicking because of personality THEN you get him. Then you can wear the skimpy stuff, but only on dates not school.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 January 2011):
Tennisstar88 is right.
You need to talk to this guy if you want him that much. What you're doing at the moment will do nothing other than make him look at you as a man would look at any other girl flashing the goods.
However, if you speak to him, he'll know that you're not just after attention. He'll know you're after him.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 January 2011):
 How about talking him and getting to know who he is.
No offense, but I wouldn't exactly go parading around in skimpy bikinis and daisy dukes. It might give him the wrong impression that you need attention.
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reader, LittleMissy +, writes (29 January 2011):
Well it depends what you mean... If you want him to view you simply as some eye candy and want you sexually then carry on.
But if you like him then he's unlikely to be thinking of you as girlfriend material in those circumstances. Try getting to know him and show him your brains aswell as beauty!
Do remember though, if you show him(and everybody else) pretty much all you've got physically, then theres not much of an incentive, he's already seen you pretty much naked, try leaving some to the imagination, leave him desperate for more!
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