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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello, 'dearcupid'.Having used this site before, and receiving excellent advice. I thought I would give my third, and hopefully final, teenage romance problem some exposure on here.Now that I am back on the dating scene after a two year break, I have begun to notice some potentially worrying things about me and the way my female companions feel about me.I have always been a more feminine boy. Throughout my childhood i would downplay that side of me. Not deny it, just not bring it to light. However, I have now matured more and am happy with my geeky and camp way of life. Well, almost happy.Because I love my musicals, and because I wear my pokéwalker with pride, girls feel comfortable around me. But that is usually all they feel. Comfort and friendship. And while I do love my girl friends, I am sick and tired of being viewed as their gay best friend, when I am not homosexual. They know this, but that knowledge does not stop them from viewing me in this way.I love me. I love the fact that I am different from a lot of other guys. I don't wanna change. But I hate being instantly put in the friend zone with no hope of escaping all because I can sing 'Hakuna Matata' with the correct accents or perform some other, equally camp feat.So what I'm asking is if there is anyway I can be seen as a potential boyfriend by girls without changing who I am as a person.It should be noted that, though not off-putting, I'm not a very attractive male and therefore would not be able to attract them with a pretty face.Probably wouldn't be able to do it with a display of masculine strength either ;P
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): Thank you anon. It's not the connection I can't do. It's just getting past the friend stage. Also I do not have musical ability, I just enjoy singing aloud.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): Some girls are more masculine than guys! I know this for a fact as I can beat several guys arm wrestling. For you I would suggest a girl who matches your personality, an equally sensitive girl who enjoys the same things as you, show her who you really are, show her how you feel. When people judge you or pick on you let them be, your girl will see this and that it doesn't bother you and she will know you are truly strong. I have seen relationships develop successfully two ways. A) immediate connection B) support and time.
You don't want to be just friends but sometimes that's how things start.
I personally admire your alleged musical ability and I know a ton of my friends would take musicians (singers included) over athletes any day!
Don't worry about geekiness, I'm proud of my geekiness too. Girls can and a lot of times are geeks. They just don't show it. A friend of mine has the face and body of a model but we still trade Naruto Shippuuden cards at every opportunity, we just don't publicize it.
I AM AN ANIME AND MANGA GEEK!!! MY BOYFRIEND IS A STAR WARS GEEK! I DON'T GIVE A CRAP! There. I've said it. You'll find a girl. Be yourself, be bold, believe.
Good Luck buddy ;)
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