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writes:Ok well me and my girl have been together for 5 months and we are both sure we love each other... i find her amazing and gorgeous... now we are both teens so we have the urge to have sex... well we want to with each other.. but at the same time we're scared it could ruin what we have... we do some sexual things and it doesn't effect us... but I'm scared that if we have sex my love might slowly start to fade... i figure if we do it just naturally(by this i mean don't plan to just end up doing it) that it'll not effect but the problem is we can't just do it naturally cause if we're alone we usually plan to but just end up not wanting to risk it... plz help me and tell me what you think we should do? and no perverts plz i really need to know on this one! Reply to this Question
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reader, allmyheart +, writes (16 February 2011):
Sex will bond you two together on a very, very deep level. I believe that such a level only belongs in marriage, as by then, you are committed to each other for life. If you are worried about it, or scared about it, then it sounds as though you are not ready for it. Wait on the sex. You'll regret it if you do it and you're worried, even if you tell yourself it's all right.
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reader, JDinCali +, writes (16 February 2011):
 You are being very mature for debating whether to have sex or not. I'm sure you're aware, having sex = the potential to have babies. The best birth control is looking up how much the average baby costs a couple per year and if you don't have a job to support that, you shouldn't have sex. Some "mature adults" get this wrong.
You should always know someone before having sex with them (out of respect) and if you're not sure then it's a "red light"; this means proceed with extreme caution or not at all and in this case, it definitely means you don't know enough about her.
Try doing active dates with her, so you can see how she deals with things and it'll keep you two busy, (not bored and curious). You might be surprised what a little bit of teamwork can bring out in a person!
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