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writes:Hey pipo m hopin u help me out on this problem....me and this guy have been datin 4 2yrs nw,n i met this nice guy we went out @ some club and took enuf beers...we later went 2 his home we had sex and now m pregnunt n my boyfriend doesnt knw about this n i cant have an abortion...what should i do?
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reader, billrocket  +, writes (25 December 2010):
i notice i forgot,one other option-sorrey-fiss-up-and tell,your boyfriend,the truth ,whos kid it is.if you can-you have so many options.merry christmas-happey new year.
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reader, MrsTetzlaff +, writes (24 December 2010):
You need to tell him what happened. You don't know for sure it's his or not, do you? No matter what, you need to tell him that it happened and how sorry you are and that you hate to leave this burden on him.
Tell him that no matter what he decides, that you are speaking in the best interests of the baby.
YOU HAVE TO TELL HIM. If you don't tell him you will regret it for the rest of your life.
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reader, Odds +, writes (23 December 2010):
 Tell him. Cuckoldry is one of the worst things you can do to a guy. Telling him would be the moral thing to do - just as importantly, if he finds out on his own, his reaction will be much worse than if you tell him on your own.
If you can, tell the real father, too. Give him the option of being part of the child's life, or adopting it after birth.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 Tell hìm you cheated.tell him you are pregnant with another man's baby
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 Well you can't pretend to your boyfriend that its his, you can't have an abortion... what other option is there but to tell him the truth?
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reader, billrocket +, writes (23 December 2010):
since abortion is not a option- you have few choices. ether tell the real dad -hes the dad,maybe he our his family will take care of the child when his born .or you can live with fact in a lie -your boyfriend is ,the dad-or only other way-maybe give the child up for adoption.to childless family member or to an adoption angency.bless you -you are in a hard place,right now.hope for you for the best.
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reader, rcn +, writes (23 December 2010):
 No matter how hard it may seem to you. The first step you need to take is to tell your boyfriend the truth. If you stay together, that's okay, you can work through this together. If he decides to leave, you have to accept it because that's always a possibility when you drink, go to a guys house, have sex, and get pregnant. You need to own what had happened, and don't keep your boyfriend in the dark because doing so will further hurt you and isn't fair or right for your boyfriend.
I understand this is difficult, but doing the right thing and telling him, no matter how it turns out, is always the first step.
Take care.
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